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Introduction
The ability to regulate emotions isn’t the same for everyone. It depends on several biological, psychological, and social factors — and it develops throughout life.
A skill you can grow
You can learn to manage your emotions. Childhood and adolescence are key periods for developing emotional regulation. Research shows that this ability has been building in you since childhood, through:
Practice
Experience
Imitation
The more you train yourself to notice and adjust your reactions, the more your brain strengthens its control pathways.
You notice how adults or friends handle their emotions.
Every emotional situation teaches you something.
Emotional regulation is a flexible skill: it changes thanks to neuroplasticity — your brain’s ability to create new neural pathways through repetition.
Some people react quickly and strongly (high emotional reactivity)
Biological Factors
Some differences come from your temperament: (Click first on the two + signs on the photo, then on +INFO below)
Others feel emotions more slowly or more gently.
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The Influence of Your Environment and Family
From early childhood, you learn how to regulate emotions by watching the adults around you. When they:
Help you name your emotions (“you’re disappointed because…”)
Encourage you to express what’s happening inside calmly and openly
Welcome what you feel without blaming you for feeling it
Your brain learns that emotions can be recognised, understood and managed. This learning process is called emotion socialisation.
+ info
The Role of Social and Cultural Context
In some families or groups, expressing anger is seen as disrespectful.
Our emotions are also shaped by the society we grow up in. Every culture teaches emotional expression differently: some value self-control, others value openness. For example: (Click first on the two + signs on the photo, then on +INFO below)
Elsewhere, not saying what you feel is seen as a lack of authenticity.
+ info
Difficult experiences (conflicts, failures, loss) can teach you how to adapt and help you understand yourself better.
Life Experiences and Resilience
But unprocessed trauma can keep your emotional system on high alert.
The events you live through also shape the way you regulate your emotions: (Click first on the two + signs on the photo, then on +INFO below)
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Emotional Flexibility
People who regulate well aren’t the ones who stay calm all the time, but those who know how to adapt their response depending on the situation. This is called emotional flexibility. Examples:
Being able to hold back during a tense conversation
Or knowing when it’s better to speak, laugh, stay quiet, or take a breath
Then expressing how you feel later, in a calmer moment
+ info
In Summary
Your ability to regulate your emotions develops little by little.It depends on your body, your brain, your environment, and your personal history. You’re not fixed or stuck: every experience, every effort, and every moment of perspective strengthens this skill.
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Flexibility can be learned: it takes self-awareness, practice, and a bit of perspective. It also includes the ability to combine several strategies at once — for example, distracting yourself while re-evaluating a thought, or delaying a reaction while breathing to calm your body.
These tendencies are partly hereditary, but they do not determine everything. Your brain learns to adjust: the prefrontal cortex (the “brake”) becomes stronger with experience and maturity. It works together with the amygdala, which detects emotional signals. The more active your prefrontal cortex is, the better it can modulate the reactions triggered by the amygdala. Other biological influences include:
- Sleep, nutrition, physical activity: a tired or poorly nourished body regulates emotions less effectively.
- Hormones: during adolescence, hormonal fluctuations increase the intensity of emotions.
Research shows that what makes the difference is not the absence of difficult emotions, but the presence of support and meaning around them. In other words: we learn to regulate by standing back up after we fall.
This process activates brain plasticity: every time you go through a difficult emotion with support, your brain strengthens its ability to adapt.
Gender expectations also influence emotional regulation:
- In some contexts, girls may be encouraged to express sadness but to suppress anger,
- While boys may be pushed to hide their vulnerability.
Understanding these differences helps you see why you regulate your emotions the way you do — and how you can find your own balance.
On the other hand, if you were often told “stop crying,” “be strong,” or were punished for expressing strong (usually negative) emotions, your brain may have learned to associate emotions with shame or danger — which makes them harder to regulate. But nothing is fixed: at any age, you can learn a healthier way to respond to what you feel.
Where does your ability to regulate your emotions come from?
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Where does your ability to regulate your emotions come from?
start
How to Navigate
Click to flip the card and read the back
Click to return to the previous page
Click to show more information
Click to go to the next page
Click to show more information
Take a moment to familiarise yourself with these buttons — you’ll see them throughout the course. They’ll help you navigate more easily and make the most of your experience.
A quick note
Continue
Introduction
The ability to regulate emotions isn’t the same for everyone. It depends on several biological, psychological, and social factors — and it develops throughout life.
A skill you can grow
You can learn to manage your emotions. Childhood and adolescence are key periods for developing emotional regulation. Research shows that this ability has been building in you since childhood, through:
Practice
Experience
Imitation
The more you train yourself to notice and adjust your reactions, the more your brain strengthens its control pathways.
You notice how adults or friends handle their emotions.
Every emotional situation teaches you something.
Emotional regulation is a flexible skill: it changes thanks to neuroplasticity — your brain’s ability to create new neural pathways through repetition.
Some people react quickly and strongly (high emotional reactivity)
Biological Factors
Some differences come from your temperament: (Click first on the two + signs on the photo, then on +INFO below)
Others feel emotions more slowly or more gently.
+ info
The Influence of Your Environment and Family
From early childhood, you learn how to regulate emotions by watching the adults around you. When they:
Help you name your emotions (“you’re disappointed because…”)
Encourage you to express what’s happening inside calmly and openly
Welcome what you feel without blaming you for feeling it
Your brain learns that emotions can be recognised, understood and managed. This learning process is called emotion socialisation.
+ info
The Role of Social and Cultural Context
In some families or groups, expressing anger is seen as disrespectful.
Our emotions are also shaped by the society we grow up in. Every culture teaches emotional expression differently: some value self-control, others value openness. For example: (Click first on the two + signs on the photo, then on +INFO below)
Elsewhere, not saying what you feel is seen as a lack of authenticity.
+ info
Difficult experiences (conflicts, failures, loss) can teach you how to adapt and help you understand yourself better.
Life Experiences and Resilience
But unprocessed trauma can keep your emotional system on high alert.
The events you live through also shape the way you regulate your emotions: (Click first on the two + signs on the photo, then on +INFO below)
+ info
Emotional Flexibility
People who regulate well aren’t the ones who stay calm all the time, but those who know how to adapt their response depending on the situation. This is called emotional flexibility. Examples:
Being able to hold back during a tense conversation
Or knowing when it’s better to speak, laugh, stay quiet, or take a breath
Then expressing how you feel later, in a calmer moment
+ info
In Summary
Your ability to regulate your emotions develops little by little.It depends on your body, your brain, your environment, and your personal history. You’re not fixed or stuck: every experience, every effort, and every moment of perspective strengthens this skill.
Activities to Check Understanding
Activities to Check Understanding
Activities to Check Understanding
Activities to Check Understanding
Match each example to the corresponding factor
Activities to Check Understanding
Match each example to the corresponding factor
Activities to Check Understanding
Match each example to the corresponding factor
Activities to Check Understanding
Match each example to the corresponding factor
Well done! You've completed this exploration.
Flexibility can be learned: it takes self-awareness, practice, and a bit of perspective. It also includes the ability to combine several strategies at once — for example, distracting yourself while re-evaluating a thought, or delaying a reaction while breathing to calm your body.
These tendencies are partly hereditary, but they do not determine everything. Your brain learns to adjust: the prefrontal cortex (the “brake”) becomes stronger with experience and maturity. It works together with the amygdala, which detects emotional signals. The more active your prefrontal cortex is, the better it can modulate the reactions triggered by the amygdala. Other biological influences include:
Research shows that what makes the difference is not the absence of difficult emotions, but the presence of support and meaning around them. In other words: we learn to regulate by standing back up after we fall.
This process activates brain plasticity: every time you go through a difficult emotion with support, your brain strengthens its ability to adapt.
Gender expectations also influence emotional regulation:
Understanding these differences helps you see why you regulate your emotions the way you do — and how you can find your own balance.
On the other hand, if you were often told “stop crying,” “be strong,” or were punished for expressing strong (usually negative) emotions, your brain may have learned to associate emotions with shame or danger — which makes them harder to regulate. But nothing is fixed: at any age, you can learn a healthier way to respond to what you feel.