Sample Chat 1 - Abusive Partner

Abusive Partner Sample Chat #1

Welcome to the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Before we start, is it safe for you to talk right now?

I am safe yes, thank you.

My relationship has been very complicated and recently, I feel as though I snapped and I ended up slapping him and spitting on him. He makes me feel like I’ve lost my mind. He twists stories, lies constantly and has cheated nonstop for years even though he’s always accusing ME of cheating.

Great! How can I help today?

Recently, I was going to sleep at his place and I smelled perfume on his pillows. I tried to ignore it but I smelled them again and I know what I smelled. When I confronted him about it he said I was crazy and threatened to kick me out of his house and put me on the street. He got in my face and was screaming at me that I’m crazy, and then I just lost control.

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I feel terrible for what I’ve done but I know what I smelled and now I feel like I’m crazy and my mind was playing tricks on me. He blames me for it and I feel like I’m going crazy and I’m just trying to blame him for my own cheating, when I’ve never cheated on anyone in my life. I can’t eat, work, sleep... I’m anxious all the time.

Abusive Partner Sample Chat #1

And now I’m apologizing to HIM for what I’ve done even though he started it... I don’t know what I’m supposed to do. He said he would press charges on me for hitting and spitting on him. Am I abusive?

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