love and friendship

love and friendship

MEETINGS

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Index

12. video

01. general ideas

07. part 2 love, love, love

13. vocabulary 1

02. part 1 what is love?

08. pop rock revolution

14. vocabulary 2

03. let's discuss

09. dating in the 60s

15 Jane Eyre

04. love, friendship and romance

10. the hippie movement

16. Poems

1.1 love today

05. about us

17 Bridget Jones' Diary

06. Gender inequality

The Empire State BuildingA Symbol of everlasting love

General ideas

This theme analyses what binds two people together (meeting / bonding), echoed by the darker side of absence and loneliness. It explores how love and friendship can generate joy and happiness, as well as a capacity to surpass oneself for the other, but also how they can become a source of conflict and even suffering, through rupture, loss or death.

Part 1 : Let’s define

What is Friendship?

What is Love?

Let's discuss

Can love be mistaken for frienship and conversely?

Is a betrayed friendship as painful as a betrayed love?

Is romance associated to friendship or to love?

Can love exist without marriage?

What are the signs of true friendship?

What are the signs of true love?

What are the physical manifestations of love?

What are the physical manifestations of friendship?

What is romance?

let's talk about us

Is friendship important to humans?

Is love important to humans

It is important to you? Why?

Gender Inequality

Are men and women equal in front of love and friendship??

love and frienship throughout the ages

What were love relationships like in the distant past? (Middle-Ages? 18th? 19th? 20th?

Part 2: Love, love, love everywhere!

Quiz

The Pop-Rock revolution

Watch and listen to the Beatles

And I love her: 1964

All you need is love: 1967

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Dating and Going steady

The appearance of a new age group changed the importance young people gave to friendship. Friends (buddies, pals, mates, girlfriends) became more important than family life. Teenagers had to have a gang. It was also commonplace to date a girl or a boy, to have a steady girlfriend or boyfriend.Prom balls were occasions to meet your future spouse Some films have turned the period into a romantic era, but actually it was full of social coded behaviour, and generally, girls were the ones who suffered the most: unwanted pregnancies, unfaithful husbands etc

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The Hippie movement

PEACE AND LOVE

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love today

The era of text messages and dating apps

• Now you know more about the past, what period of time do you prefer?

• Do you think smartphones have made our love / friendships relationships easier or have they complicated them?

Video

Watch the video: Do you agree with what Christina Aaliyah says?

CHAPTER XVII A week passed, and no news arrived of Mr. Rochester: ten days, and still he did not come. Mrs. Fairfax said she should not be surprised if he were to go straight from the Leas to London, and thence to the Continent, and not show his face again at Thornfield for a year to come; he had not unfrequently quitted it in a manner quite as abrupt and unexpected. When I heard this, I was beginning to feel a strange chill and failing at the heart. I was actually permitting myself to experience a sickening sense of disappointment; but rallying my wits, and recollecting my principles, I at once called my sensations to order; and it was wonderful how I got over the temporary blunder—how I cleared up the mistake of supposing Mr. Rochester’s movements a matter in which I had any cause to take a vital interest. Not that I humbled myself by a slavish notion of inferiority: on the contrary, I just said— “You have nothing to do with the master of Thornfield, further than to receive the salary he gives you for teaching his protégée, and to be grateful for such respectful and kind treatment as, if you do your duty, you have a right to expect at his hands. Be sure that is the only tie he seriously acknowledges between you and him; so don’t make him the object of your fine feelings, your raptures, agonies, and so forth. He is not of your order: keep to your caste, and be too self-respecting to lavish the love of the whole heart, soul, and strength, where such a gift is not wanted and would be despised.”

I went on with my day’s business tranquilly; but ever and anon vague suggestions kept wandering across my brain of reasons why I should quit Thornfield; and I kept involuntarily framing advertisements and pondering conjectures about new situations: these thoughts I did not think to check; they might germinate and bear fruit if they could. Mr. Rochester had been absent upwards of a fortnight, when the post brought Mrs. Fairfax a letter. “It is from the master,” said she, as she looked at the direction. “Now I suppose we shall know whether we are to expect his return or not.” And while she broke the seal and perused the document, I went on taking my coffee (we were at breakfast): it was hot, and I attributed to that circumstance a fiery glow which suddenly rose to my face. Why my hand shook, and why I involuntarily spilt half the contents of my cup into my saucer, I did not choose to consider. “Well, I sometimes think we are too quiet; but we run a chance of being busy enough now: for a little while at least,” said Mrs. Fairfax, still holding the note before her spectacles.

Ere I permitted myself to request an explanation, I tied the string of Adèle’s pinafore, which happened to be loose: having helped her also to another bun and refilled her mug with milk, I said, nonchalantly— “Mr. Rochester is not likely to return soon, I suppose?” “Indeed he is—in three days, he says: that will be next Thursday; and not alone either. I don’t know how many of the fine people at the Leas are coming with him: he sends directions for all the best bedrooms to be prepared; and the library and drawing-rooms are to be cleaned out; I am to get more kitchen hands from the George Inn, at Millcote, and from wherever else I can; and the ladies will bring their maids and the gentlemen their valets: so we shall have a full house of it.” And Mrs. Fairfax swallowed her breakfast and hastened away to commence operations. JANE EYRE, AN AUTOBIOGRAPHY by Charlotte Brontë 1847 (published under her pen name, Currer Bell)

Jane Eyre : Read the text.and answer the following questions 1. Focus on the first and second paragraphs (l.1 to 17) a. Who is Jane thinking about ? b. What feelings does she express in this paragraph? What can the reader guess? c. Is Jane comfortable with these feelings? d. L.11, there are inverted commas at the beginning of the paragraph, who is Jane speaking to? e. Why does Charlotte Bronte use such a literary device as stream of consciousness here? 2. L.18 to l.42 a. What does Jane consider doing ? (l.20) Can you guess why? b. How does Jane feel after Mrs Fairfax tells her she has received the much-expected letter? c. What details show that she tries to hide her emotions? d. At the end of the extract, do you think Jane is going to be happy or disappointed once Mr Rochester is here? 3. Globally, what is Jane’s unwilling reaction each time she hears the name of Rochester? What does she try to do each time? 4. Jane is obviously in love with Rochester, do you think she is aware of her feelings or not?

A Red, Red Rose By Robert Burns 1794 O my Luve is like a red, red rose That’s newly sprung in June; O my Luve is like the melody That’s sweetly played in tune. So fair art thou, my bonnie lass, So deep in luve am I; And I will luve thee still, my dear, Till a’ the seas gang dry. Till a’ the seas gang dry, my dear, And the rocks melt wi’ the sun; I will love thee still, my dear, While the sands o’ life shall run. .

And fare thee weel, my only luve! And fare thee weel awhile! And I will come again, my luve, Though it were ten thousand mile

Portrait of Burns by Alexander Nasmyth, 1787, Scottish National Portrait Gallery. Born 25 January 1759 Alloway, Ayrshire, Scotland Died 21 July 1796 (aged 37) Dumfries, Scotland

‘Love and Friendship’ by Emily Brontë 1846 Love is like the wild rose-briar; Friendship like the holly-tree. The holly is dark when the rose-briar blooms, But which will bloom most constantly? The wild rose-briar is sweet in spring, Its summer blossoms scent the air; Yet wait till winter comes again, And who will call the wild-briar fair? Then, scorn the silly rose-wreath now, And deck thee with the holly’s sheen, That, when December blights thy brow, He still may leave thy garland green.

Worksheet: ralogie Bridget Jones’ s Diary Writer :………………………….………………………….. Year:…………………… https://online.flipbuilder.com/mrck/zswh/ What type of literature is it?.................................................................................................................... …………………… Summary of the beginning of the story: Bridget Jones, a thirty-year-old woman has been invited to a New Year’s Day party at some of her parents’ friends, where she meets Mark Dracy, a childhood friend that she hasn’t seen for a while. As she is still single, her family tries to set her up with Mark, which of course is quite embarrassing. On the other hand, Bridget has got a crush on Daniel Cleaver, her boss.

The extract: Questions First 2 Days 1. When does the first scene take place? 2. Is this scene set in the same place from beginning to end? 3. Who are the different characters? 4. What is Bridget doing at the beginning of this scene? 5. What are Mark’s mother and her friend trying to do? 6. How does Bridget feel at the end of the party? Why? 7. How does she comfort herself?

Tuesday 3 January 1. What do the lines in italics correspond to? 2. How does Bridget feel at 9 a.m.? Your analysis of this passage 1. What do you think of the style of writing? 2. Is the author really respecting the literary genre of the diary? Do you find any unusual elements in the text? 3. Do you find this kind of literature interesting? Why? Why not?

Vocabulary

Nouns and expressions 1. A token of love: une prevue d’ammour 2. Love at first sight: un coup de foudre 3. Unrequited love: amour non partagé 4. A love match: un marriage d’amour 5. Cloud nine: le septième ciel 6. An infatuation: un coup de cœur / avoir un engouement 7. Bliss: extase / béatitude 8. Fulfilment: satisfaction 9. Weakness: faiblesse 10. Selfishness: égoisme 11. Intimacy: intimité 12. A bond: un lien 13. A boundary: une limite 14. Courtship: la seduction/ la cours 15. Wedlock: liens du mariage 16. A seducer: un séducteur 17. A womaniser / a ladies’ man: un dragueur

18. A love match: un marriage d’amour 19. Gender roles 20. Marriage /matrimony 21. Attraction: attirance 22. Wedding 23. Engagement 24. An affair: une liaison / une aventure 25. A fantasy: un fantasme 26. Misdemeanour: comportement immoral / mauvaise conduite 27. Grief: le tristesse 28. A pal: un copain 29. Restraint: la retenue 30. A bride: une mariée 31. A groom: un marié 32. Moral standards: normes sociales 33. a crush - quelqu'un qu'on aime en secret

Verbs1. To team up with: être copain avec 2. To make eyes at s.o: faire les yeux doux 3. To waver: hésiter 4. To strike up a conversation with: engager la conversation 5. To be engaged: être fiancé 6. To encounter: rencontrer 7. To go steady: soritr sérieusement avec quelqu’un 8. To have butterflies in the stomach: avoir des papillons dans le ventre 9. to be brokenhearted: avoir le cœur brisé 10. to fall for someone: craquer pour quelqu'un 11. to woo: courtiser

Adjectives1. Unwanted: non-désiré 2. Unfaithful: infidèle 3. Steady: régulier 4. Exhilarating: grisant 5. Sinful: coupable 6. Devastating: dévastateur 7. Crushing: terrible, dévastateur 8. Foolish: idiot / irréfléchi 9. Boundless: sans limite 10. Blurred: flou 11. Graphic: explicite 12. Inappropriate: déplacé / inapproprié

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19 th century. The century of romanticism. Tortured feelings and hopeless love. Women didn’t have much to say!

Love, romance, friendship are associated with female emotions whereas men are not supposed to yield to these feelings. We can regret that.It has been a source of uneasiness and unhappiness for men because they are not supposed to show soft emotions. When men are in love, they have to conquer, woe and win eventually. (medieval courtly love) Except during the romantic period when male writers expressed their love without any restraint, but it was generally a hopeless, painful love. The display of feelings have always been considered as a proof of weakness in men by other men. This patriarcal way of regarding feelings has denied men the possibility to show their emotional side.

Love is a very strong feeling, a source of endless emotions, which can be either positive or negative. Love can lead someone to bliss or total despair. Love can be obsessive and devastating / crushing/ destructive but it can also be a source of joy and fulfilment., of never-ending happiness

I give her all my love That's all I do And if you saw my love You'd love her too I love her She gives me everything And tenderly The kiss my lover brings She brings to me And I love her A love like ours Could never die As long as I Have you near me Bright are the stars that shine Dark is the sky I know this love of mine Will never die And I love her Bright are the stars that shine Dark is the sky I know this love of mine Will never die And I love her

I give her all my love That's all I do And if you saw my love You'd love her too I love her She gives me everything And tenderly The kiss my lover brings She brings to me And I love her A love like ours Could never die As long as I Have you near me Bright are the stars that shine Dark is the sky I know this love of mine Will never die And I love her Bright are the stars that shine Dark is the sky I know this love of mine Will never die And I love her

• People seek each other company
• They have butterfly in their stomach
• They dream about the person
• Life becomes lighter and funnier

For decades, movies, proposals, and love stories have made the Empire State Building their muse. From classic films like “An Affair to Remember” to romantic comedies like “Sleepless in Seattle,” the Empire State Building has earned its status as a symbol of enduring love. Step onto the 86th and 102nd Floor Observatories and revel in the romantic air as you take in the unmatched views from the heart of New York City. This next-level date idea is the perfect way to impress a new beau or to break up the ordinary with your long-term love

Love, romance, friendship are associated with female emotions whereas men are not supposed to yield to these feelings, as boys are never encouraged to show their feelings.This is a pity and also it has been a source of uneasiness and unhappiness for men because they are not supposed to show soft emotions. When men are in love, they have to conquer, woe and win. (medieval courtly love) Except during the romantic period when male writers expressed their love without any restraint, but it was generally a hopeless, painful love, love feelings have always been considered as a proof of weakness in men by other men. Love is supposed to be a suffering.

Blushing Pounding heartFeeling hot Feeling embarrassed, unable to say something intelligent Eager to meet the loved person Feeling awkward in front of this person Feeling uneasy and not up to the person.

18th century https://www.womenshistory.org/articles/history-romance Men and women (but more men) started to feel more inclined to free love. Hence the character of the Rake (a womaniser) represented by Casanova or Don Juan. Novels like les liaisons dangereuses de Choderlos de Laclos However women still had to find a husband, rich preferably.

The appearance of a new age group changed the importance young people gave to friendship. Friends (buddies, pals, mates, girlfriends) became more important than family life. Teenagers had to have a gang. It was also commonplace to date a girl or a boy to have a steady girlfriend or boyfriend. The expression: to go steady meant that the couple had been going out together for quite a while (was in a serious relationship ) and might get engaged. Of course, girls wanted to go steady because getting married was what was expected and the tradition whereas boys wanted more adventures and being considered a womaniser by one’s peers was highly respected. (illustrated in the film Grease )

Both feelings are primordial for humans. These relationships show how the human soul functions. Some people are comfortable being on their own but most of us enjoy the proximity of other human beings. From an early age, humans have enjoyed sharing with others, laughing with others but also having tender gestures like kissing, hugging or caressing. These contacts are beneficial to humans' psychological balance.

• friends are close to each other
• Friends trust each other
• Friendse are happy to spend time together, they enjoy each other's company
• friends share the same interests, passions, tastes
• They exchange messages, photos
• They enjoy the same sense of humour
• They are faithful to each other

Saint Valentine’s Day as the celebration of lovers appeared in 1400, but it’s not very sure The earliest surviving valentine is a 15th-century rondeau written by Charles, Duke of Orléans to his wife, which commences. "Je suis desja d'amour tanné Ma tres doulce Valentinée..."

Calling someonesending voices messages and funny photos Writing cards or letters to someone Asking someone out to do something, going to the cinema, shopping, to the concert Sharing music, clothes and ideas

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The expression: to go steady meant that the couple had been going out together for quite a while (was in a serious relationship ) and might get engaged. Of course, girls wanted to go steady because getting married was what was expected and the tradition whereas boys wanted more adventures and being considered a womaniser by one’s peers was highly respected. (illustrated in the film Grease) Dating behaviours in the ’60s had to be considered good etiquette. if you were a girl, your parents would expect your date to be a polite young man who sought permission to ask you out in your teens. A boy should open the door for his date. He was also expected to pay for movie tickets, dinner or any refreshments. Women were to refrain from kissing the boy on the first date, regardless of how much they liked him.

I give her all my love That's all I do And if you saw my love You'd love her too I love her She gives me everything And tenderly The kiss my lover brings She brings to me And I love her A love like ours Could never die As long as I Have you near me Bright are the stars that shine Dark is the sky I know this love of mine Will never die And I love her Bright are the stars that shine Dark is the sky I know this love of mine Will never die And I love her

1950s-1960s: the pop- rock revolution The Beatles is one of the pop bands which celebrated love in all their songs: happy or unrequited love, they were never ashamed to sing this feeling. Their songs have an exhilarating quality that makes us feel good

I give her all my love That's all I do And if you saw my love You'd love her too I love her She gives me everything And tenderly The kiss my lover brings She brings to me And I love her A love like ours Could never die As long as I Have you near me Bright are the stars that shine Dark is the sky I know this love of mine Will never die And I love her Bright are the stars that shine Dark is the sky I know this love of mine Will never die And I love her

Love seems to be more important to humans than friendship. Probably because literature and films have used love situations many, many times. We can quote the filmreleased in 1970 "love Story" which was an instant box-office match.

Love, love, love Love, love, love Love, love, love There's nothin' you can do that can't be done Nothin' you can sing that can't be sung Nothin' you can say, but you can learn how to play the game It's easy Nothin' you can make that can't be made No one you can save that can't be saved Nothin' you can do, but you can learn how to be you in time It's easy All you need is love All you need is love All you need is love, love Love is all you need All you need is love All you need is love All you need is love, love Love is all you need There's nothin' you can know that isn't known Nothin' you can see that isn't shown There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be It's easy All you need is love All you need is love All you need is love, love Love is all you need All you need is love (all together now) All you need is love (everybody) All you need is love, love Love is all you need Love is all you need (love is all you need)

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The Beatles is one of the pop bands which celebrated love in almost all of their songs: happy or unrequited love They were never ashamed to sing this feeling, to celebrate it with words. Their songs were great inspiration for many teenagers. These songs have an exhilarating quality that makes us feel good

Friendship offers almost the same kind of emotions as love. Friendship is a challenge because it needs generosity and understanding whereas love is often slightly selfish. Friends have the same importance to someone as a lover. Friendships can last for ever and it is an extremely rewarding relationship for both friends.

Romance is associated with love, it’s the expectation of great excitement, great pleasure like seeing the person or encountering this person for the second time. There is the anticipation a pleasing moment.Most novels depicting love feelings display romance as describing romance is easier than describing love. Love at first sight is also a common literary device to introduce more passion in a novel.Romance def: a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love.

It’s easy to mistake friendship for love especially when the boundaries are blurred because of the intimacy between the 2 protagonists.

Romance is associated to love, it’s the expectation of great excitement, great pleasure like seeing the person or encountering this person for the second time. Most novels depicting love feelings display romance as describing romance is easier than describing love. Love at first sight is also a common literary device to introduce more passion in the novel.

Betrayal is extremely painful in both cases. A bretayed friend is as desperate as a betrayed lover, even though the betrayals are not similar. However, it is often about lies and deceit in both cases.The death of the loved person is a tragedy.

Love definitely exists outside the bonds of marriage; however Christian and patriarchal societies impose wedlock on both lovers. Love outside marriage is considered as sinful and the stain rests upon the woman.