Mentoring Journey

"When mentoring becomes an add ‐ on to the rest of your day, the connection you need to get work done may never get a chance to grow." (Zachary & Fain, 2022, p. 11)

Mentoring relationships: Intergenerational context

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize and understand our own emotions and the emotions of others and then to use this ability to guide our behavior and manage our relationships . (Zachary & Fain, 2022, p. 28)

Four components of emotional intelligence

Self-awareness

Self-management

Social awareness

Relationship management

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When we mentor someone older or younger than ourselves, we need to remember that we are each seeing things through the context of our own generation's worldview.(Zachary & Fain, 2022, p. 72)

Deeper level connections

Honesty- Mentoring relationship relies on safety and trust

Responsiveness- Mentoring relationship thrives on timely communication

How flexible are you when circumstances change or when you have to overcome obstacles?

Relevance- Mentoring relationship requires understanding what is relevant

Are you aware of other's emotions, needs, and perspectives and consider them?

Respect- Mentoring relationship is built on respecting differences

Openness- Mentoring relationship succeed on lettig others in

Do you respond to emotional reactions of others appropriately?

Empowerment- Mentoring relationship requires empowering others

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Do you recognize and understand your moods, your emotions, and what drives you?

In my current administrative role, I stay in tune with my emotions especially when having difficult conversations.

Things are constantly changing in my administrative role, so adapting to those change is crucial.

When making decisions, I like to read the room and consider the impact of said decisions based on who they are affecting.

How others react emotionally cannot be controlled by me, but what I do have control of is how I react emotionally.

Styles of mentoring, context, creating conection, and overcoming differences

Boomers

Gen xers

Millenials

Gen Z

Mentoring journey

1946-1964

1965-1979

1980-1995

1996-2012

• Challenge them
• Expect hard work
• Talk optimistically

• Set expectations
• Be collegial
• Involve them

• Be direct
• Treat them as equal
• Teamwork

• Provide reality check
• Provide feedback
• Encourage agency