Traffic Light Language

traffic light language

welcoming. the gentlest, kindest language. You are assuming that the person didn’t know you had a limit and wants to be respectful and healthy in your relationship. You’ll share this green language and see where it goes.

welcoming. Yellow is okay, this person is either forgetting or unwilling or reluctant to respect my boundary, now my language needs to be a bit more direct. It’s still kind, but it’s more direct and impactful. I may share a consequence here, like "Can we redirect our tone of this discussion or take a five minute break for all. when i get back, we can pick up and start again."

welcoming. The red level boundary is if the behavior continues to escalate, you can communicate, "this is the boundary, this is the consequence, this is the action that I am going to take to keep myself safe and healthy." example: "The way you are speaking not feel okay to me. I’m going to leave for a short amount of time and when I come back we can resume.

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Taylor CA Saraiva

Taylor CA Saraiva

traffic light language

welcoming. the gentlest, kindest language. You are assuming that the person didn’t know you had a limit and wants to be respectful and healthy in your relationship. You’ll share this green language and see where it goes.

welcoming. Yellow is okay, this person is either forgetting or unwilling or reluctant to respect my boundary, now my language needs to be a bit more direct. It’s still kind, but it’s more direct and impactful. I may share a consequence here, like "Can we redirect our tone of this discussion or take a five minute break for all. when i get back, we can pick up and start again."

welcoming. The red level boundary is if the behavior continues to escalate, you can communicate, "this is the boundary, this is the consequence, this is the action that I am going to take to keep myself safe and healthy." example: "The way you are speaking not feel okay to me. I’m going to leave for a short amount of time and when I come back we can resume.

red

yellow

green

ways to communicate your boundaries

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3

Taylor CA Saraiva

Taylor CA Saraiva